‘Say my baby’s name’ walks
the reader gently and gradually through the journey of loss
experienced by the five men and twenty-seven women who courageously shared their
stories. We learn about every aspect of the journey - from the moment news of the
pregnancy breaks, to the sense of foreboding that something is not quite right,
and on towards the devastating loss at different stages of pregnancy and birth.
The book will be enlightening for all those interested in learning more about
the life-changing loss of a baby.
The reader will gain insight into the emotional world of those
bereaved of a much-wanted baby and learn that the loss impacts profoundly on
parents’ mental, emotional,
physical and spiritual well-being. Embedded in the chapters are key messages
for families, society, health professionals, employers and parents. The purpose
of researching this sensitive topic is to give voice to those who ‘know’ and understand
pain through their own lived experience. Therefore, from the outset, through
the stages of ethical approval, organizing, setting up and recording 32
interviews, transcribing, analysing and formulating the chapters, the aim was
to ensure that the voices of the bereaved mothers and fathers remained central,
as the book came to fruition. Personal experience of loss, insights gained
through studies in psychology and engaging in therapeutic work with bereaved
people over many years have collectively drawn my attention to areas of study
that are closely associated with my life and my history. This work is inspired
by a personal life journey of growing up ‘close to grief’. My brother Patrick
was stillborn and the loss weighed heavy on my beloved parents and our close
family members.
Dr Anne Tracey is a
registered counselling psychologist with the Health Care
Professions Council and a chartered psychologist with the Psychological Society
of
Ireland. For many years, Anne was a
lecturer in the School of Psychology at Ulster University, Magee Campus and a
volunteer with Foyle Cruse Bereavement Care.